Saturday, June 30, 2012

Do I really need to spank?

My answer to that has always been a very definite no. Yes, I always thought one could get away with not spanking. 

There is a profound verse in Proverbs, and the first time I read it, it was a big wake up call for me. I didn't like spanking, no parent does, but when we don't discipline our children, we actually don't love them enough.  But how can that be, I always thought I loved them too much to go around causing them physical pain through spanking?!

Proverbs 13:24  "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

bedtimes - (figuratively) be (up) early at any task (with the implication of earnestness); enquire early, rise (seek) betimes, seek (diligently) early, in the morning). That, to me, means we have to start disciplining early in life. 

I am against spanking when spanking implies a smack on the bottom, and that only causes spinal injury. Going around "spanking" a child on the bottom  for each little offence is no discipline at all. Firstly it doesn't hurt, just like hitting a dog with a newspaper only produces a lot of noise, and actually just frightens the poor animal, the same happens with a child. After a while the child gets used to the noise from behind and will just carry on being disobedient.

Disobedience must be corrected and punished, no matter what age.

Children are incredible quick learners! Have you noticed how quickly they will learn negative behaviour? Positive behaviour can also be learned! Just like obedience is something that is learned. No child gets born into this sinful world being obedient. Obedience comes from training and learning.

"...but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." 

Chasteneth - properly chastisement; figuratively reproof, warning or instruction; also restraint: - bond, chastening ([-eth]), chastisement, check, correction, discipline, doctrine, instruction, rebuke.

Chastisement - pain inflicted for punishment and correction should be a last resort. 

I am not against a good hiding when it is meaningful, does in fact cause physical pain and discomfort, and is not done when the parent is upset, angry or irritable
“The rod and reproof give wisdom” (Proverbs 29:15). Reproof is delivered in words. Reproof is designed to impart wisdom and understanding. Reproof corrects the child’s perspective and gives him a reason to obey that is higher than fear. The rod alone may create fear but reproof creates wisdom.

How ever you as a parent choose to discipline, be consistent. Spanking, no spanking, isolation, extra work, reproof, instruction, whatever... be consistent! Children are remarkable quick learners. If you apply the rules consistently, they should learn very quickly!

To play fair, children need to be aware of all the rules. Don't make them up as you go along. It is best if these rules are visible where everybody can see them. Older children appreciate this when they are aware of the game plan...


Friday, June 29, 2012


A must read story about a young girl named Nerline that touched my heart: How this little life can still bring praise amidst so much suffereing? And we complain...


Thursday, June 28, 2012

5 Reasons to go to church!

A year ago we left our church. It was a very difficult thing to do.
For whatever reasons we left, our hearts were torn apart and there was a short time when we didn't go to any church, and a short time when we did some church-hopping. But one day my husband said, enough of this, we need a new (permanent) home...

Why do we need a permanent church (community) to belong to?
Better still, why do we need to go to church?

1. It's a good habit

Heb 10:25 "Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is" KJV and "Not forsaking or neglecting to assemble together (as believers), as is the habit of some people" Amp.

Let me tell you, to get my little family up and nicely dressed, fed, hair in a bow and teeth brushed to be all happy faces at church Sunday mornings is no easy task. But once we are there, realizing that Anika has got two right feet and nobody remembered to wipe that marmite cheek and someone needs to go to the bathroom NOW, seeing friends and feeling part of, makes all the effort worth every little bit!

2. You meet new friends

When we left our previous church, our biggest concern was the friends that we left behind. But a year further down the road, we still have our old friends and gained wonderful new friends at our new church! But, and here is a big but: you have to want to become part of, by pitching up a little early and staying a little longer after the service, have a cup of coffee and you will definitely meet the friendly lady behind the coffee table, maybe look and feel awkard for 5 minutes, and I assure you someone will come and say hi!

3. You're a good example.

Not only to the neighbours that see you rushing out in a parade every Sunday morning come rain or shine, but to your precious children! Children usually end up doing what their parents do, not what they told them to do. They will follow your good example. Many times we had a good excuse to not go to church, and then one of our children just insisted that we must go and that motivated the whole bunch of us to get up and get dressed and get moving...

4. You get saved.

You don't need to be saved to go to church. That's an awkward thing to say yes! But its a good place to be to get saved. We all need Jesus, yes we do and chances are good you will find Him in church!

5. You get to know the person who will say the prayers at your funeral! (And they get a chance to know you too!)

This is a bad thought, but I have seen it too many times, when death comes untimely, how family can struggle to put you in the ground... Worse yet, everybody wonders... When you didn't belong to a church or community, people and family are left with this unfair question: Will they see you again, and under what circumstances?

Smoking? or Non-Smoking?

(thanks for the picture)

Monday, June 25, 2012

When you can't see the miracle...

Sometimes we have to believe
although all the circumstances may look pale
and you can't exactly see were you are going.

It was like this yesterday:
Her mother got this date a long time ago
And I watched the weather predictions...
There was actually no way we were going to
be able to go up the mountain yesterday.

We drove there in faith,
our mission: to give thanks,
not knowing what the weather will do,
and the mountain (Table Mountain) nowhere to be seen.
We knew it was there... but it was out of sight.

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Hebrews 11:1

Magnificent views!

The reason for our celebrations!

Maybe if we had a glorious day of open skies and the beautiful view of Cape Town below, we would have lost our focus. There might have been a big crowd of people, and we might have lost sight of what we came there for: giving thanks and glory to our Heavenly Father for healing our little friend!

#2309 wrong weather predictions
#2310 faithful friends
#2311 newly grown eyebrows
#2312 lots of smiles
#2313 praying together
#2314 icy wind and mist and rain and wet
#2315 Your glory and light shining over us
#2316 a peek into a earthly father's heart
#2317 stories of miracles and faith over a cup of coffee
#2318 all Your gifts and small (big) miracles every day we don't even see

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The day I found grace.

November last year:
My little Anika has a very sensitive gag reflex. As a baby she would sometimes gag on her own bottle. When all the children got sick earlier this year with the rota virus she took the longest to get better as she just refused to eat or drink.
So, on this night I am nearing the number #95* and really looking for all the blessings because I'm really curious about counting to 1000 and what it will crack wide open in this heart of stone already turning soft.
Anika didn't eat her supper and is softly crying and complaining that her stomach isn't feeling well. I go and sit with her on the couch, trying to comfort, my husband and children run out the front door to go and do some garage management.
So I am sitting there, all alone, out of hearing range as Anika starts to vomit. Her little body spasms with each wave of nausea. I run out of clothing and blankets in reach to catch all the fluid. I can not call anyone or leave my little Anika to go get help. As more wet is running down the inside of my shirt, I dare to ask the Lord what on earth can I be thankful for in this moment? Where are the blessings now? My own stomach is making nauseous twists... I am alone and helpless and wet and stinking, and my child is crying and I can't do anything but comfort.

#953 Anika drinks a little bit of juice

Later, much later, with no sleep, I lie between two children taking turns to be sick, husband sleeping soundly in another room. I'm changing blankets and towels, rinsing face cloths, wishing I didn't give my family fishcakes and corn for supper...

All in between the blessings, the gifts, the obvious, is grace.
This is where I'm finding grace.
Between #952 and #953 and #954 is grace.
All is grace.
The blessings are the obvious. Grace is in between. And for everything and in everything I need to give thanks.

And I find joy.

Eucharisteo joy.

Between #952 and #953 and #954 there is strength, there is provision, there is healing, there is ever growing patience, there is love, there is touch, there is the here and the now, grace, life, breath.

And more grace.

Everything is grace.

Over six months it has taken me to find grace.


Saturday, June 16, 2012

Meet the Herpetologist.

Also known as Ilze... or little Miss Greenpeace!

She knows more about reptiles that you can ever imagine, and birds...

...always exploring...

Haar eerste woord was "ta-ta", en dit het beteken "buitentoe" - Ek wil uit gaan buitentoe!
Een van die groot redes waarom ons gekies het om te tuisonderrig: Om hierdie kindjie in 'n klaskamer te hou voor boeke vir 6 tot 8 ure per dag sal seker haar ondergang gewees het. 
Dankie Here vir hierdie spesiale mensie in ons lewens!

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

A new habit worth every second.

A new habit.
We have tried many times in the past to have Bible reading together as a family. We have always managed to just give up. With every try the little ones ended up all over everything or simply just erupting in laughter and silliness, not understanding and us as parents maybe not determined enough?
And what a great idea it was: Giving each member of the family, no matter what the age or ability to read, their own Bible! Problem solved instantly! In a moment (a short moment, so don't waste a second) you'll have every body's attention, even if it is only for just one verse after supper. 
So we started with Proverbs,
a short prayer,
and a sing-a-long song or a hymn.
I thank God for these short moments every night, no matter how short, I praise and thank Him for this. 
And thank you Ann.


Thursday, June 7, 2012

Three little mice...

The result: Cutest little things! Children treasure a home made gift more...

And here is that link again...


Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Here is a sweet little project for a cold winter's day:

Click here to download the free pattern!

I will keep you posted on our little project. (See the children found a dead rat outside this morning, and now everybody is pre-occupied with rats and mice... so I did some "googling" and found this to make)

Thanks to


Monday, June 4, 2012

Sharing with you...

Good morning Monday! Well we're off to a slow start as the children have already started a new animal game in the back of the house and that leaves me with preparing eggs and toast and a while in front of here....

This came in my inbox this morning and I would like to share a mother's wisdom about choosing the correct curriculum. If you home educate, or plan to, or even if your children are in school, this makes a very good read anyways...

Good luck for the rest of the week, the sun is just out, and did you see the moon this morning??


Saturday, June 2, 2012

"...and bring all things to your remembrance..."

I read this Psalm the other night before sleep came.
In my soul I heard and vaguely remembered the melody and the words.
Strange how the songs you sang in church so many years ago
can come to remembrance...
As if they float to the surface,
long forgotten,
a word memorized,
a song sung,
and then many years later, you remember.

John 14:26 "But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in My Name, He shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you."

Do you remember this?
(my Afrikaans friends?)
Psalm 42:
Soos 'n hert in dorre streke
skreeuend dors na die genot
van die helder waterbeke,
skreeu my siel na u, o God!
Ja, my siel dors na die Heer,
na die lewensbron; wanneer
sal 'k, ná swerftog en benouing,
God weer sien in klare-aanskouing.

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